When sharing wisdom with children it is important to pay attention to what energy we are coming from. If there is any root of needing the child to change or needing the child to learn this now for fear of them lacking something without it, if there is anything other than total acceptance for how the child is showing up, then our “wisdom” will carry an energy of attachment, coercion, and agenda. All of these things are out of alignment with how higher self sees things, so right beneath our good intentions, there is a subtle negative tone. And children are the first to pick up on this.
They typically have 2 responses: to please you or to rebel against you. Neither of these responses are a reflection of the child’s true self. They are defense mechanisms prompting the child to disconnect and play a role instead.
But there is a place for sharing our wisdom. It comes from feeling genuine intimacy with another, a natural opening up. And this wisdom bubbles up from joy. It comes when the child is clearly available and open for conversation, and a sweet sense of inspiration flows through us. It comes when we feel good about sharing ourselves simply for the sake of sharing, but not from feeling like someone else needs to change or adopt our beliefs. Whenever we feel the latter, the work is actually for us.
In these moments our children are inviting us into greater realizations of trust in their path knowing life shows up perfectly for everyone. Whenever fear starts to take the wheel, remember: Life is enough. Your child’s experience is enough. You are enough.
There is no need to overcompensate. All you need to do is become conscious of your energy within the relationship, because you being able to regulate what energy you engage in is teaching your child more than lectures ever will. And while words may sometimes be useful, they will be the cherry on top of your living breathing example.
So, find your balance within first. Take care of your misperceptions of lack, fear, frustration, expectation.. And Find your connection with trust, acceptance, and peace. Then follow whatever guidance comes from that state of being.
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